Mommy-Friends Make the World Go ‘Round
Recently I had the chance to spend some time with a girlfriend that had a baby one month after I had my daughter. It was our second time meeting up since having the babies (we had dinner while we were both still prego), and we had such a great time! We met up at an outdoor mall – had frozen yogurt, walked around, did some minor (extremely minor) shopping. It was so nice to stroll around with our strollers and talk mommy talk. We made googly-eyes at each others babies and swapped stories about baby dedications, diaper blow-outs, and the educational system in California…you know…all the usual stuff parents talk about when they’re together.
What I loved about this baby-love-fest is that I felt comfortable. Completely at ease. It was refreshing to have a conversation with someone that’s in the exact same stage in their life as I am. We’re the same age, our children are about the same age, both married, have similar interests. Whether you’re going off to college, getting married, or having a baby, there’s something to be said about having a friend that ‘gets it’ because they’re traveling down the same road.
My non-mommy friends love and care for me and my baby, but for the most part, my experience is foreign to them – so the level to which they can relate to the full scope of what’s happening in my life is limited. And that’s fine, but sometimes you just want to talk to someone that fully understands the nuances of adjusting to a post-baby body, hair shedding, and dealing with baby acne.
I’m happy to be forming, or in this case, nurturing more relationships with other 30something moms. The benefits of having a mommy-friend (especially for us first-timers) are endless. Connecting, sharing, supporting…yeah…that’s what we do – and I’m glad to have some company on my journey (thanks, E!).