How We Make This Work: The Goshas

The Romance Wednesday feature of the blog is evolving! I am excited to present a new series on marriage entitled, “How We Make This Work!”

With the How We Make This Work series, I’m giving  married couples a chance to give insight into how they work out common issues we all face on the other side of “I Do.” The goal is to show that despite what marriage may look like in the mainstream, there are many couples that are willing to put the work in to maintain happy, healthy relationships with their spouses!

Let’s meet The Goshas!

Cam and Lamar Gosha have spent four years on the other side of “I Do.” He’s an engineer and she’s a television writer-producer. They reside in the Los Angeles area with their adorable little boy named, LJ.

1)  We make communication work by… talking everything out and really listening. My husband turned me into a better communicator. He likes to nip things in the bud and talk it out! I’m thankful for that in him. I didn’t always appreciate it.

2) We make child rearing work by… We discussed how we wanted to raise a child before we had a child. By the time our son came we had some basics of how we wanted to raise a child were covered. The nitty gritty of parenting is a day by day process of listening to each other and listening to our child. We have made the conscious effort to treat him like a person who has an opinion and a voice that we value. I’ve seen to many cases of kids just being along for the ride and we want our child to be an integral part of the ride of our lives.

3) We make our finances work by…being open about everything. If there’s a purchase that exceeds a certain amount, we need to talk about it. It’s a matter of respect for each other as well as respect for what we’re trying to build together.

4) We make romance work by…by flirting!! We are always flirting with each other. I text my husband just to tell him he’s cute and he texts me just to say he loves me. It’s the little things that keep romance alive and well in our house.

5) What advice would you give to a newlyweds (or even oldyweds!) on how to make marriage work?

The advice I would give anyone is know that marriage isn’t easy. People say that all the time but you don’t really know until you’re in it. When you are as mad as you can be at your spouse, stop and try to think of the last thing they did that made you smile. Remember the reasons why you said “I do”. It’s not always easy but it helps me to put things in perspective. Also, when you take vows there are three of you up there. You, God and your spouse. Keep it that way.

Visit Cam’s blog Bibs & Baubles to get the scoop on her daily life as a wife, mommy, and super fab chick!

Got some tips you’d like to share? Send a request to be featured to and include “How We Make This Work” in the subject line!


Posted on September 7, 2011, in Features, Romance Wednesday, The Ring: Marriage and tagged , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 13 Comments.

  1. LOVE this idea! You can count us in, for sure! We’re always looking for some great been-there done-that advice.

  2. yay! Love it! Thanks for the shout out! 🙂

  3. Ohh, wee…I love it! Great idea.

  4. Yes! I wish somebody was there to hand us some tips. We had to learn the hard way.

    Cam, you guys look great!!

  5. these are great suggestions! congrats on the happy marriage!

  6. Thanks for sharing your tips! We have been married 9 years, and agree it isn’t easy but worth it. I tell couples that you get out of it what you put into it. Communication is an absolute must for a successful marriage.

  7. Great post, sometimes its good to get reminders on how to keep the spark! I especially love the flirting tip, I do this as well with my husband, it really keeps the connection going all day long.

  8. Thanks for your suggestions as a successful marriage lady and mother. You guys sound like a wonderful couple and look GREAT!

    I recently broke up with my man friend because he didn’t communicate very well and some other issues we had. The flip side of the coin I don’t have a problem being single. I celebrate it. It gives me more time to spend with my heavenly Father, family and to pamper myself. If and when God sends my Boaz I will be ready. In the meantime I will celebrate my singleness, uniqueness and wholeness and learn from other couple what works like you and your husband.

    I really enjoy your blog. Keep up the good work.

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